I think many people find it perferable to spend more time and energy in deeper (more intamate) relationships once they are willing to do it. But that doesn't nessesarily make them any less of a people slut. It just means less open to fuck everybody. But that means more open for something else.
I love this tribes topic but I still look to connect with others.Till very recent this tribe has been dead, but that could be for lots of reasons, Like many of the people here on tribe are all looking to hook up. That automaticly puts everyone who is hear for different reasons at a minority.
Ex poly has no flare when viewed strait on. It's not till it's seen from within that a person can appreciate the opportunities that lie within a person who is spending the energy they used to spen trying to fuck everything in sight, on bigger and better adventure.
Deep experience taste different.It's different than poly whatever and monogomy.
Gormet sex is different than stuffing yourface or limiting yourself to one food. It means treating your sexuall appitate to special dishes. Whatever your tase may be.

i dunno about that....I believe that i would feel comfortable in a poly type relationship if i felt that my partner and I had each others emotions in mind. I am not sure that there is anything truly ex-poly...I can speak for myself, and I have a great love for those close to me, and i give myself to them selflessly when i am able.....my closest friends are as good as lovers in my eyes...for me it boils down to consideration of my partners feelings and comforts as well as how i feel my partner is considering mine......perhaps I would explore a poly type relationship if i felt secure in my primary relationship....one of the reasons I have not consented to a committed poly type arrangement since my marriage disolved some years back is just that......I think that all people have something lovable to them. I dont necessarily have to fuck them though.

>but hey, dont you think its funny that we have little to say here...less to exchange with each other...

Personally, I don't think this makes poly better. I just found this tribe and I really enjoy the postings. I think that there's less said in this tribe than one that is into all the drama that is usually associated with being in open relationships because of just that...DRAMA. When you get into all of the emotional BS that goes with open relationships (at least in my experience), you have lots to say about it. I also remember when I was actively living the lifestyle, I always had to say lots, say it loud, and say if often to feel like I was worthy of those that I was attracting. Now I'm in this place where I don't have that need to be so expressive because when all is said and done, I have to be the one that is happy with my choices. I choose to honor myself physically and emotionally. That means not putting myself into situations where I feel like I'm being compared or examined. I have also noticed that since my hubby and I stopped putting all of that time and energy into searching for the non-drama poly people, we've had a ton more energy to put into improving things on the homefront. Perhaps the bed is emptier that it's ever been, but one thing is for sure...it's a lot more exciting and fulfilling than it's ever been!