I spent a long time (7 years) living a poly lifestyle. I had lots of fun and some great experiences, but about a year ago I don't know what happened, but I didn't want to participate any longer. This of course threw waves into the relationship I have with my partner. We have since worked through all that, but during that inital transition period, my partner and all of the people we had relationships were waiting for me to change my mind. When they realized that I wasn't going to change my mind, they spent a lot of time giving me the "spiritually evolved" pep talk. My answer to them was that they all loved me when I was doing what they wanted, and now that I'm doing something different, they won't accept me. It's sad to say, but not a single person except my partner stood by me. When the realization came that I wasn't going to change my mind and that they couldn't talk me into going back, no one had time for me any longer. Looking back on this, I realize that the "spiritually evolved" pep talk was a way for them to put theirselves in a higher position than me expecting me to strive for that. It didn't work because like yourself, I am a very spiritual person and I don't need their approval for my spirituality. It was difficult to loose all those people that I thought were people who loved me for what I was out of bed as well and in bed, but now the people that I'm attracting into my life really do care for me for who I am rather than my sexual talents. It's fulfilling for me to have my meaningful sexual relationship that I can direct all of my sexual energy and have a big social circle to connect with at a different level.